In a thought-provoking episode of the ADHD Support Talk Radio Podcast, co-hosts Tara McGillicuddy and Lynne Edris delve into the concept of the “My Fault Default” and its impact on adults with ADD/ADHD. The discussion revolves around the tendency for individuals with ADHD to blame themselves for various challenges and difficulties they face, often attributing them to personal shortcomings. Throughout the episode, Tara and Lynne explore the origins of the My Fault Default, its negative consequences, and strategies to overcome this self-blaming mindset.

The podcast begins with an exploration of the My Fault Default and its prevalence among individuals with ADHD. Tara and Lynne discuss how the neurobiology of ADHD, including executive function deficits and difficulties with attention and organization, can contribute to feelings of guilt and self-blame. They emphasize that the My Fault Default is a learned response, often stemming from societal misconceptions and negative self-perception.

The co-hosts emphasize the importance of understanding that ADHD is a neurobiological condition, and its challenges are not indicative of personal character flaws or lack of effort. They debunk the common misconception that ADHD is solely a matter of willpower or laziness, highlighting the underlying cognitive differences that individuals with ADHD experience.

Tara and Lynne discuss the detrimental effects of the My Fault Default mindset on self-esteem, motivation, and overall well-being. They explain how self-blame can hinder progress, perpetuate negative self-talk, and create a cycle of frustration and self-doubt. They stress the importance of shifting this mindset to one of self-compassion, acceptance, and understanding.

Throughout the episode, Tara and Lynne provide practical strategies and insights to help listeners overcome the My Fault Default mindset. They emphasize the need to reframe self-blame as unproductive and counterproductive, encouraging individuals with ADHD to adopt a more compassionate and understanding perspective. They discuss the power of reframing thoughts, challenging negative self-talk, and practicing self-forgiveness.

The co-hosts also address the role of external factors and environmental influences in ADHD challenges. They highlight the importance of recognizing and addressing systemic barriers, such as lack of accommodations or understanding in educational and work settings, that can contribute to difficulties. They discuss the importance of seeking support, advocating for oneself, and creating an environment that fosters success and well-being.

Tara and Lynne emphasize the value of education and self-awareness in challenging the My Fault Default mindset. They encourage listeners to learn about ADHD, its neurobiology, and the common challenges associated with it. By understanding the root causes of their struggles, individuals with ADHD can develop a more accurate and compassionate self-image.

Moreover, the co-hosts discuss the significance of seeking professional help and support. They encourage listeners to engage in therapy or coaching to address underlying emotional issues, build coping strategies, and develop a more positive mindset. They emphasize the role of a supportive community, whether through support groups or online forums, in combating the My Fault Default mindset and fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance.

In conclusion, the podcast episode featuring Tara McGillicuddy and Lynne Edris provides valuable insights and strategies for individuals with ADHD to challenge the My Fault Default mindset. By recognizing the neurobiological nature of ADHD and reframing self-blame as unproductive, listeners can cultivate self-compassion and develop a more accurate perception of their capabilities. Through education, self-awareness, and seeking support, individuals with ADHD can break free from the cycle of self-blame and embrace a more positive and empowered mindset.

Tara McGillicuddy is described by those who know her – clients, fellow leaders, and community – as dedicated to the deep, soulful energetic-level shifts required by life. Whether she’s helping to SEE your life more clearly, identify where you’re stuck, tuning into sacred energies OR she’s helping to build a practical life with tools, structure, physical help and precise action steps, she is committed to giving everything she knows to help you live your best life and to feel fulfilled by it.

Tara has been known and celebrated in the ADHD community for decades of practical and long-lasting shifts in tens of thousands in her communities. The creator of, The ADHD Awareness Expo and ADHD Support Talk Radio Tara is one of the longest-standing leaders in the field. Over the years she has also honed her natural skills as an empath. She now also combines the rare gift of sight and energetic knowing and her latest project is Empath Now a resource to help Empower Empaths.

Podcast Co-Host Lynne Edris is a Productivity & ADHD Coach who helps overwhelmed professionals from all over the world learn to accomplish what they intend and take control of their days with ease so that they can perform at the level of their abilities and have more time, more energy and more bandwidth for what matters most to them. Lynne is a woman, wife, and mom with ADHD herself, so she understands the struggles and challenges of living with ADHD. She has gone from living in the constant state of chaos, overwhelm, and under-performance that adults with ADHD know far too well, to living a life of more success and fulfillment than she once dreamed possible. Her passion is to help others fulfill their own potential and start “firing on all cylinders” in all areas of your life. You can learn more about Lynne at, and text keyword “HACK” to 33777 to get her 7 Fool-Proof Productivity Hacks for unfocused professionals!

ADHD Support Talk Radio is an award winning Podcast for Adults with ADD / ADHD. Co-hosts Tara McGillicuddy and Lynne Edris are joined by Adult ADHD experts and they cover important topics related to Adult ADD / ADHD. Podcast guests include Dr. Edward Hallowell, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, Dr. Ari Tuckman, Laurie Dupar, Terry Matlen and many more.

Tara McGillicuddy is the Producer, Owner and Co-host of the ADHD Support Talk Radio Podcast. You may contact Tara with general questions or feedback about the podcast.

Lynne Edris is the Co-host of the ADHD Support Talk Radio Podcast. You may contact Lynne with feedback about her episodes.

    2 replies to "My Fault Default"

    • Shelley B

      You two have SUCH great information and help! I appreciate you VERY much! You have been such a blessing and support to me for several years now!!! I love to listen to your programs! Shelley in Colorado

    • admin

      We are so glad that what we’re sharing has been helpful for you! That’s why we do what we do. 🙂 Thank you for your kind words

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